Saturday, April 8, 2006

The Holy Grail (Archive)

The column found below was published in April 2006 on Wu's Feetlinks. With Wu's passing in 2014, I have decided to preserve these columns here on the all new Wu's Feetlinks Columns Blog as new columnists carry on with the new ones. Please note: Website URLs, e-mail addresses, and mailing addresses found within these republished blogs may no longer be valid.

Patrick, Editor

Spring has sprung. That means that pretty peds are popping up, while foot fetishists are gearing up! Yes, it is that time of year when girls kick off their boots and socks, for something a little more airy. We're welcoming in the season for sexy shoes of all styles, and hoping to catch a few naughty glimpses of tantalizing toes wiggling out of a new pair of strappy heels, sandals, slides, flip flops, and other appealing, revealing foot wear. Girls are done with the cold winter, and want to show off their fresh pedicures, cute toe rings, and lovely little anklets. The birds and bees... the breeze and the trees ~ the warm air gives rise to the foot tease. The foot show begins, and footguys notice an ever increasing desire for what they admire. What is the tightness in their pants all about? This month's G-Spot is about your best friend... your throbbing Cock, and also about your Cock's ultimate pleasure... beautiful female feet of course! We're dreaming about scrumptious, silky, sexy soles... we're lusting over perfectly painted polish and longing for exquisite high arches. But most foot fetishists don't just crave feet, they need feet to pleasure their oldest, dearest and their very best friend, their Cock. And my dears, it is impossible to link Cock, and female feet without uniting the two... and discussing *The Holy Grail*. I am delighted to write about one of my favorite past-times, sexual experiences, and ultimate foot indulgence - foot sex.

Over the past several years, I have received an endless stream of e-mails with regards to footsex. Some of you have a partner who ped-pumps the pistol, and some unfortunate footguys still hope for some helpful tips to encourage their girlfriend or wife to venture out into erotic footplay. Then there are some of you, who still haven't opened up about your foot passion... so sadly a footjob is still miles away. However for the purpose of this Column, we're going to assume that your lover knows of your below the ankle inclinations, and is at least willing to try some hot foot contact. *wink* Now, where do I start? Clearly there is more to footsex than a Cock meets Toes, or a Head meets Ped. Though some people relish in any sole connection, I'd venture to say that for those of you who haven't been fortunate enough to experience mind-blowing footjobs ~ that you would like me to give you some advice, and a few techniques for you to pass on to your special lady.

Bells ring, the birds sing, the moment is right and you sit tight. You hold your breath, her feet are close... she pours some lube... she gives a few strokes to your tube and then is no longer in the mood. Sorry for the cheap rhymes, but with spring and footlove in the air it is hard for me not to giggle about this. But I know that it is serious for you, and that not all footsex is equal. You want the best, and I do appreciate that. So how do we get your lady to give you the best footjob you have ever had, and ever dreamed of? Well first off, sex of any kind is rarely the same as it is in your fantasies or porn scenes.To achieve and maintain a positive sexual relationship with your lover ~ you should not compare her or her sexual techniques to other women... especially experienced foot models or porn starlets. Just forget us foot girls, and revel in the moment with the object of your desire. Do not try to put her in a specific position that you've seen on some wild footjob video. Don't insist that she does it a particular way. Please don't force it at all because this isn't 'one' sided. Enjoy what you have, and endeavor to create a positive and encouraging environment from which your woman can open her wings like a spring butterfly. Give your lover a special gift. Give over some sexual power. Let her explore, without fear of ridicule, rejection or even frustration. Acknowledge and accept that each foot session doesn't have to end in orgasm. If a woman feels that she has to complete the foot sex act ~ it can be quite awkward and overly stressful. She needs confidence, and she also needs some guidance. Some women might be open to watching some kinky foot videos with you, or possibly read a foot Column like this one. But sadly a majority of women won't check out these kinds of sex aids, and might even get offended if you ever suggested it.

Let's knock out some important points to consider, and remember during footplay (in no particular order):

  • It is important to be patient with her. Practice does make perfect. Most people aren't born knowing how to foot-jack. Realize that learning together and about each other is fun. Since the cum finale isn't required each time you indulge in footplay, your lover will become more relaxed. Each time you play together it will inevitably get easier and come (excuse the pun) in an easier way as well.
  • Be sure that your lover is in a comfortable position. Your lady might find certain positions too arduous at first and become frustrated. Don't let that happen. Let her experiment with positions and angles which suit her, and encourage her to change foot positions as often as she would like. Not only is variety nice, but she will learn which positions give her (and therefore you) the best results. ;-)
  • If your lady is successful with giving you hot handjobs or blowjobs... then maybe suggest that she tries to visualize pleasuring you in a similar manner, but with her sexy feet. She might want to try thinking of her feet as hands alternating between arch cupping, sole pumping and even using her toes as fingers. Remind her that the cock head and the little spot below the head (you know the place) is extremely sensitive. Paying attention to this magic spot will help her make you release and achieve an intensified finale.
  • During the time before, and during the cock stimulation please be aware of her feelings. Don't tell her what to do. Gently guide her, and always verbalize your pleasure. Be sure to let her know when she has done something which feels particularly good. Calmly let her know if something hurts you. Do this is a very nice way, as to not have her stop. Always positively reinforce to your woman that there is no 'wrong way'... during footplay even though you might have a clear idea of what's right for you. Your lady also needs to know that she isn't going to get a bad reaction from you - even if her toenail nips you or something like that. I can't emphasize enough that you need to be gentle with suggestions and be careful not to be overly critical. She can be sensitive to facial expressions as well as words... so careful what your face says, as non verbal communication can just as easily haul a steamy footjob.
  • For men sex is visual. So try to position yourself to be able to 'see' what you like. The visual pleasure will correspond with her ped advances and toe touches. Seeing is very sexually enhancing. For some men just watching his woman foot fondle his genitals will cause an eruption or spontaneous cum-bustin! ;-)
  • I know that it is a footjob that you are seeking not a blowjob or a handjob. However it is beneficial for you to allow her to use her hands or mouth (if she is that talented), alomg with her feet. Using other body parts to stimulate you should be encouraged. Let her express herself the best she can. Try not to don't deter her from various body parts during the sexual experience. Eventually she'll be able to use more 'feet' as time goes on.
  • Always keep a sense of humor. By keeping the mood light and playful, your foot lady will feel less pressure and enjoy the interplay. Perhaps you can even start things off with a nice foot massage or a back rub. Not only do I think that a good giggle during sex is healthy, but so is communication. Don't be afraid to talk during footplay and always keep things on a positive note - even if you aren't getting off the way you expected.
  • Rub and dub dub. Lubrication is important especially for foot sluts in training. lol A little lube goes a long way. Try not to use too much though - as control and dexterity is reduced. Have your lady squeeze out just give enough gel or lotion to help slide her feet up and down your mighty shaft, but without the nasty flesh pull... (though some of you may like that). lol
  • I personally like music playing in the background while I'm pleasing Chaos' big cock. Music can be a way for a woman to help establish a good rhythm. Maybe try playing a favorite song while you are two are enjoying foot love. Music may encourage her to move her feet in different ways. This rhythm motion will give her peds some momentum... kind'a like foot aerobics or dancing on a dick. hehe
  • This next point is often neglected. Men forget to tell women that gravity is on the down. What do I mean? Well, when stroking a throbbing cock - it is the downwards stroke that is the most sensitive and pleasing. Though bringing peds upwards towards the head feels good, it definitely doesn't compare to the downward thrust. The same is true for blowjobs and handjobs. It is like thrusting into a wet pussy... going in is incredible and you come out just to push your prick back in again. Some women think that they should pull the cock and tug it. This gives limited results. Tell her to stroke it down baby!

Now that I've given you some things to think about, I'd also like to give you several positions for your lady to try. You probably know most of these, but often in the heat of the moment, we forget that certain positions are easier than others. Your partner wants to please you, so make sure she is always comfortable.
  • The easiest and definitely a great beginner position is the man on floor with a woman sitting on a chair or low bed. This position gives the woman easy access to either a limp hopeful dick or an erect member waiting to explode. This position doesn't require a lot of abdominal strength and dancing on a cock style works quite well or maybe even slip slide and away with some lube. With a little practice she will be able to cup the shaft between her lovely feet, and do a little prick pumping.
  • Doggie style footjobs are a personal favorite because I can gain momentum and really thrust down while not letting go. I'm able to generate the speed and friction that Chaos needs to spill his thick load on my feet. For this position, a woman should be on her stomach with her feet cupped around the cock (which is behind her). She can move her feet in a variety of angles, but remember that it requires a bit of practice because the woman can't 'see' what she is doing. But the man has a great view.
  • Another common position is the woman laying on her back with her legs stretched out stroking her man's meat with her feet and teasing with her toes. Holding the cock fairly secure and raising the feet and legs up and down does require some abdominal strength. This is a great belly burning exercise, but it takes time to master. You might suggest this to your lady only if she is fit enough to do so. If she isn't, start out with a different position until she gains the confidence and ability to try it.

Last but not least I'd like to mention a few footjob techniques for your foot lover to experiment with. This might overlap a bit with positions, but I didn't want to neglect mentioning these sexy angles.

  • Woman sitting or laying holding cock upright with one foot while stroking the shaft with the other foot and gently touching the head when possible. This can be done from several positions, and is a great start for an inexperienced footjob-ist.
  • Using the space between the big toe and the second toe. This technique is very effective for stroking up and down, as well holding the cock in position as you move around.
  • If a man likes his balls played with... A lady can rub the balls with her toes, or might even want to try gripping the balls with her toes - if she is dexterous.
  • A technique that isn't seen often but is a lot of fun to try is the sausage roll. Have the lady place the cock in between her arches and roll it like a big wiener between her arches, balls of the feet or possibly even the ankles. Most places will feel good. If it slips don't worry.
  • Ladies who like to move around a bit might also enjoy laying on her side while she uses her arch to hold the cock and the front of her opposite foot to balance it out. Then with a bit of practice she can stroke the cock in that position, providing a different sensation. It is always worth a try.
  • Probably the most common footjob technique. Cock placed in between both feet with some pressure applied. As the shaft is held and rubbed between the sides of the female foot or her sexy soles. It is usually a rhythm like motion going back and forth, or up and down. This can be done in several positions with similar results... usually a cummy mess. lol
  • A lady might also want to try flicking the cock with her toes or just directly rub the head with her soles or possibly the ball of her foot. If she has some foot skill, she might also use her toes or second toe - to stimulate (the above mentioned) special spot just under the head, and on the mushroom rim of the cock. This ultra sensitive spot is usually a quick way to make a man cry out in ecstasy and serve up a nice hot load.

Of course techniques, and positions during footplay are only limited by you and your partner's sexual imagination. Have fun exploring new things and practicing that which has given positive and stimulating results for both of you. However I want to make clear that you need to encourage 'your lover' to use a part of 'her foot' that feels the best for 'her'. It is extremely important - as it gives her the ped connection with eroticism... even without her having a real foot fetish. If footplay feels pleasurable for her, it will make her more open to doing it more often, and ultimately you'll reach The Holy Grail. A superior footjob with a breathtaking knock you out cum finale - will happen the day that your woman truly enjoys what she is doing. With patience and encouragement a time will come when even the most conservative woman will dare to be a little foot slut!! hehe In my experience (though I have a foot fetish), the inner most part of my arches are extremely sensitive. This area has an intense G-Spot effect (hence the name of my monthly Column) for me during extreme footfucking. This results in an amazing ped-gasm! Of course Chaos loves my moans, and groans. It sends him over the edge even faster. That is a goal for both Chaos and I... to reach ecstasy together and that footplay is always satisfying for both of us. I want to conclude by saying that the female foot is an extremely sensitive but often neglected erogenous zone. Women don't even realize it. Show your partner patience, pure pleasure, and give her time to explore. She will be shocked by the ped-pussy connection. She'll be asking you for footplay. And you my friends will wake up Saturday morning with beautiful feet in your face!

Wednesday, March 8, 2006

Turning the Tables (Archive)

The column found below was published in March 2006 on Wu's Feetlinks. With Wu's passing in 2014, I have decided to preserve these columns here on the all new Wu's Feetlinks Columns Blog as new columnists carry on with the new ones. Please note: Website URLs, e-mail addresses, and mailing addresses found within these republished blogs may no longer be valid.

Patrick, Editor

As most of you already know, I have a real passion for peds. I have had this infatuation since I was a young girl. I think it started as a baby when my Father would rub my feet for hours. I don't know why he first started doing this - perhaps to help me fall asleep. But I definitely loved it, and found it really comforting. In fact, if he stopped rubbing my feet, I would make a terrible fuss and cry until he started again. I became very demanding of his soothing rubs and eventually foot massage was my favorite thing. As I got older, I always received a lot of attention from both boys, and girls because my feet were so tiny. As a young adult, I was delighted by people's desire to comment on my peds, as well as touch them. I don't know the exact moment when feet became sexual in nature, but I do know that as I got older I was fascinated by beautiful female feet, and I adored my feet being attended to. Whether my toes were being sucked, soles slurped... or even my arches bitten... I couldn't help but get aroused by these incredible sensations. I am quite sure that a foot fetish is different for a man than for a woman. My own ped pleasures are my fetish focus, and having my petite feet worshiped in a multitude of ways is always incredibly sexually stimulating. I don't require the presence of feet for sexual arousal, but it sure intensifies my orgasmic experiences if I do have my feet involved. Some of you would suggest that simply receiving and indulging in ped pleasures does not in fact constitute a true foot fetish. Without hesitation, I would add that I am also a voyeur. I spend a great deal of time watching women and gazing at their sexy open shoes and well pedicured toes. My personal preference is a lovely barefoot girl with bright polish or maybe a nice fresh French pedicure. And cute toe ring is always a nice bonus. lol I am by no means a lesbian, I would dare to say that I have foot curiosities that go beyond just admiration. At the moment I am satisfied with having a foot site, for it is a wonderful outlet for my fetish. It provides me with countless hours of foot time that I probably wouldn't get if I didn't have a site or access to thousands of feet pictures on-line. I definitely have my own favorite foot models. Though there are many foot girls with sexy feet, I think my favorites would include Elzbennet, Janet, Lexi Lapetina, and Tina Marie to name just a few.

Though I don't really like the word fetish - I think we'll still use it here to keep things clear. Though I am more inclined to enjoy sexy female feet, I do sometimes like to also experience the more assertive role of pleasuring a foot. Not a female foot, but a male foot. Now this is where many of you are going to cringe. Yes, it is true - my foot fetish sometimes surprises me. I do like to sneak up on my husband's unsuspecting feet and get a nibble, a lick or even a bite! Though I don't usually find male feet attractive and though I don't make a point of male foot watching, I must admit that the below the ankle love should be enjoyed by both men and women. I don't expect any of you footmen out there to check out men's feet. But my question is - have you ever had your girlfriend, wife or lover worship your feet? Did she massage your tired feet, shrimp your toes and caress the lines of your soles? If you did, I would love to hear what the experience was actually like, and if you haven't... why not? I have the impression that most men... even those who obsess over women's feet on a daily basis - would never imagine turning the tables. Though a foot rub might not be entirely out of the question - having a woman tongue their toes or suck their calloused heels seems totally offensive or as my husband would say nauseating. Yes it is true, Chaos with his ultra ticklish, but nasty smelly construction boot feet would never in a million years let me near them! Well, unfortunately I only got a few quick nibbles in, a handful of times. Each time I tried to show him how good it could feel, he'd always pull away in great disgust while making me promise not to do that ever again.

My foot fetish is a part of who I am, and since my husband also has a foot fetish, I figured it was time to let him experience what I feel when he lovingly caresses my peds. So some months ago, Chaos had a few beers and was rather relaxed. He asked me to take a dip in the Jacuzzi with him. I of course stripped down and joined him in the swirling tub. After ten minutes of soaking, I noticed the tips of toes just barely emerging from the water. His eyes were closed and he was gently rubbing my soles underwater.This was my chance! Throwing caution to the wind... I grabbed his left foot and before he had a chance to pull away, his big toe was in my mouth. Ha Ha! Now Genie was in control. I had a firm grip on his ankle and began to pop his mushroom shaped toe in and out... he tried to jerk away but resistance was futile. I had him right where I wanted. Let's say for the next twenty minutes or so, I was macking out. I probed every inch of his water logged wrinkled size 13's and I forced him to submit to my oral talents. Chaos was shocked at first, but the sensations were like nothing he had felt before. He was amazed that he was so hard and so aroused by my advances. Now he was in awe and totally submissive to this new pleasure - wondering what I would do next. Of course this session didn't end there. While I continued to ravish his soles, I began to stroke his throbbing erection with my feet. The footplay was mutual and as a lady - I'll stop the story here. But I will say that at the end of our foot lust... Chaos kissed me and thanked me for making him my Foot Slut!! Next time he asks me to go into the Jacuzzi, I know that he knows he will be attacked, and he might even be looking forward to it. So my foot friends, if you haven't tried "turning the tables," try it... you'll love it!

Wednesday, February 8, 2006

Hiding in My Shoes (Archive)

The column found below was published in February 2006 on Wu's Feetlinks. With Wu's passing in 2014, I have decided to preserve these columns here on the all new Wu's Feetlinks Columns Blog as new columnists carry on with the new ones. Please note: Website URLs, e-mail addresses, and mailing addresses found within these republished blogs may no longer be valid.

Patrick, Editor

Hello everyone. I'd like to apologize to Wu, and the Forum for the delay in February's article. I guess sometimes life just gets in the way of my favorite fetish, and sadly enough even my new Column. Thank you for your understanding. I really appreciate it.

Speaking of fetish... what do you think of the term foot fetish? Are you comfortable with it? Do you think that people understand fetishists? Or do you think the term conjures up strange images and abnormal behaviors inevitably sending out a negative connotation of who and what we are? I believe that foot fetishists are misrepresented, clearly misunderstood, and generally shunned by society. Now one may argue that the mass media, and of course the ease of internet access, might in fact be bringing foot fetish to a more mainstream position. But trendy or not, most fetishists including myself, don't really tell others that we have a fascination and sexual inclination towards feet. Sadly when we do tell others, they often want to judge and figure us to be very weird. As we get older, we are more inclined to either not care what others think, or we are just comfortable enough with our own sexuality to not concern ourselves with other people's aversions or close mindedness. This might be easier said than done. Even the most confident foot connoisseur is still going to be in situations where he or she doesn't really appreciate some of the social stigmas attached to this term or moreover a condition. Fetish is defined as: "A condition in which arousal and/or sexual gratification is attained through inanimate objects (shoes, pantyhose) or non-sexual body parts (feet, hair)... And is considered a problem when the object is needed in order to obtain arousal or gratification and the individual can not complete a sexual act without this object present." I guess this definition isn't too terrible, but people nonetheless can't seem to help, but equate foot fetish (as they understand it to be) with irrational obsessive and secretive sexual male behavior bordering on emotional / mental inability to deal with women or possibly some childhood trauma or Oedipus complex .The suggestion on a psychological level, is that foot fetishists are somehow 'ill'. Not to mention that some of them like the odor of smelly feet? Ahhh! They must be depraved! In a future column we'll certainly delve into the intoxicating allure of female foot pheromones. 

So I do believe that for most North Americans the term foot fetish is clearly derogatory. They are unwilling or mentally unable to move past distorted images of a weak submissive man prostrating himself in front of a powerful leather clad whip wielding dominatrix. Now don't misunderstand me - there is nothing wrong with those who choose a BDSM lifestyle and enjoy the interplay of pleasure and pain, or control and submission. I don't think that appreciating the beautiful form of a female foot is necessarily a submissive act either. I don't believe that masturbation to a part of the female form negates the rest of her physical / sexual being... or her as a person. Most of us do not fantasize about chopping a pretty ped off an unsuspecting ankle. Now do we? If any of you do, well then you would be in an entirely different category. lol Clearly we are all influenced by our childhoods, and the onset of pubarian masturbation as a potent proclaimer to our sexual selves. Behavioral imprinting and first sexual experiences do shape our desire to seek out sexual stimuli. If our first sexual experiences involved feet, shoes and other below the ankle infatuations... and that these objects were nearby at the time of masturbation, then it would be fair to say that an individual may subconsciously link to these objects. Early sexual experiences with objects or feet in our case, may identify orgasmic gratification and through association promote future arousal and comfort level with said object. There are numerous socio-psychological theories to attempt an explanation of foot fetishism and childhood memories. It really doesn't matter how we got our fetish, but that we come to terms with it as part of who we are. But it is only one aspect of what makes us sexually tick. Some people do suggest that foot fetish, as an illness or intimacy issue - makes it impossible to be sexually stimulated without the presence of feet. I find it very interesting that though most people have some type of 'sexual kink'... foot fetishists are still placed in a totally different social category. We are the sum total of our experiences, and it would be wrong to suggest that a foot fetishist is a social deviant without possible respect for his partner - as a complete person. Obviously there are men who love and obsess over boobs, butts, or hair etc... but they aren't considered freaks. But foot fetishists 'are.' I really don't like the word freak either... sigh!

With what I've say so far, one would think that I am directing this only towards men. Well that isn't quite correct. Actually I have a true story to share with you. When I first married my husband, though he enjoyed me from head to toe, and to my delight - spent a lot of time pleasuring me 'below the ankle'... he was very uncomfortable with the term foot fetishist. At that time, he had a male roommate who shared his townhouse. His friend was quite sexually promiscuous and would often bring home one night stands or little trolups who thought they actually had a chance to start a relationship with him. He was in search of that one girl that who had a body for sin, voracious sexual appetite, and always wanting to please him in every way, several times a day. In order to find this sex kitten, let's say he test drove a lot of models. Clearly not all these girls were equal, and some of them were quite annoying at 2:00 am. lol That is another story. Anyway how does this involve foot fetishism? Well, one day my husband's roommate found out about my foot fetish website, and he absolutely hit the roof! He didn't direct his anger towards my husband rather, he focused his fury and disgust towards me. He viciously turned on me. I was speechless. I really didn't feel that I deserved it. What I did in the privacy of my own bedroom wasn't his business. Just like I didn't comment on his procession of girls into his bed each night, he had no right to judge me. He had no reason to comment on my behavior, as it in no way effected him or our living arrangement. He didn't hear me screaming in the wee hours of the morning... like his naughty tarts did! I always stayed out of his way and my feet were definitely not imposing! His busy sex life and relationships however did impact me and living there was often uncomfortable. So how could he turn to me and verbally abuse me for enjoying private ped pleasures? I was furious, but I tried to reason with him. He said that I was wrongfully secretive and that I was somehow mentally ill. He was a young guy in his twenties with lots of his own sexual kinks, but like so many other people - he thought foot fetish was a psychological and mental disorder and that he had the right to actually know if I had this awful fetish! He called me a freak, and some other very nasty words. I stated that it wasn't his business and to just forget about it. I told him to do 'his thing' and that my husband and I would do ours. I thought he'd drop it. I hoped he would, but instead he said, Wouldn't you want to know if you were living with a pedophile or rapist? If I was a child molester - wouldn't you feel that you had the right to know? Would you want to live with someone sick like that? You have a foot fetish and you didn't tell me! How dare you bring that into the house? Oh my goodness, that moment is forever burnt into my mind and it just broke my heart. I thought he and I were friends. He obviously had no trouble making judgments on something that he clearly didn't understand. How could he compare me to a child molester or rapist? A week or so later we made up the best we could, but the damage was done and a short time later he moved out. I can't begin to tell you how difficult it is for me to open up about my foot fetish now. And though a lot of people comment on the small size of my feet or how pretty they are... I still don't let them know anymore than they need to. I am confident with myself, but I really don't like the term foot fetish or freak. I therefore am comfortable just "hiding in my shoes," and I try to keep my foot fancies to myself... only my husband, (and now my website members) share in my guilty pleasure -- my passion for peds. 

I'd like to close by saying that it is too easy for others to say that our foot fetish is a pathological disorder or that men / women with this obsession are suffering from some childhood trauma or Oedipus complex. Unfortunately I think that the concept of a foot lover can often scare women away from men, even if they could or would actually enjoy the pleasurable indulgences of the ped. Incidentally I found another term which might be used instead of foot fetish. "In psychology and sexology, Paraphilia is a term that describes sexual arousal in response to sexual objects or situations which may interfere with the capacity for reciprocal affectionate sexual activity. However it is important to notice that the term can be and is also used to imply 'less mainstream sexual practices' but without negatively implying any dysfunction or wrongness." Of course no matter what we call our obsession, fascination, desire or even kink... it will take a long time before the social norm is accepting of foot fetishism. They are missing out - Not us. The Foot Rules!

Sunday, January 8, 2006

Below the Ankle (Archive)

The column found below was published in January 2006 on Wu's Feetlinks. With Wu's passing in 2014, I have decided to preserve these columns here on the all new Wu's Feetlinks Columns Blog as new columnists carry on with the new ones. Please note: Website URLs, e-mail addresses, and mailing addresses found within these republished blogs may no longer be valid.

Patrick, Editor

Ever since I started my website, I have received e-mail from men asking questions about their foot fetish... wanting to understand or explore it. But most of all, they ask me how to get a woman to welcome their advances (towards the female's pretty peds that is). I always try to do my best to answer their questions, and give them some things to think on. But I also suggest that they visit Wu's. As you guys know, it is a good place for discovery. Clearly there are many groupings and levels of ped admiration, foot loving, worship and even sub-fetishes. However when you boil it all down, there are basically 3 types of men that come to Wu's. 

I will call the first group the foot fetish connoisseurs. These men have come to terms with their passion and generally do experience the pleasures of the foot. I believe that these men - usually a little older have the necessary confidence needed to fully enjoy their below the ankle inclinations. In many cases these men have been successful by incorporating feet into their daily sex life. These men usually are good communicators, and have a partner that indulges their fetish. However sometimes this group still feels the need to venture out into cyber space to explore more. Sometimes they even surf with their ladies. All in good fun.

Then there are men that are not new to the fetish realm, but have for a variety of reasons hidden their fantasies and desires... longing to seek out that which they have internalized or hidden for years. These men are often dating or married, but feel anxiety or extreme guilt. After so many years of secrecy - they ask me, how can I possibly share my foot fetish with my lady? In many cases, their lady doesn't know about their fetish, knows about it but pretends she doesn't, or simply thinks it is disgusting and wants nothing to do with it. (There are of course women who do enjoy ped-pleasures and those who are very open to it. Smart ladies indeed. We'll talk about them in a future article). Of course this group of men have a difficult time because they weren't totally honest, and upfront before they got involved. Or perhaps they didn't realize the full extent of their foot obsession and thought it would simply go away - if they ignored it long enough. Sexuality is an extension of one's self. Trying to deny your fetishes is extremely difficult and has a profound negative psychological impact. Denial is an ugly thing and manifests itself in a multitude of unconscious ways. 

Lastly I would say newbie pedmen make up a third group. As newbie suggests, these fellas are usually young, inexperienced and in need of direction.They must have a huge sigh of relief when they find Wu's forum and start to interact with his on-line community. They begin to realize that they are indeed normal... that a lot of men share their below the ankle interests, and that this is the place to ask all the questions that have been bouncing around their heads. It is like finding a new home, and Wu's community allows newbies to finally have a much needed release - even if only by being accepted. They will get a different kind of release in the future when he finds a woman who is open to some form of footplay. But much like the second group, the biggest question is wanting to know how they can get a little foot action without coming across like a real freak? How can he open up without embarrassment or even total rejection? Though foot fetish is becoming more mainstream, the media still tends to portray footmen as off the wall, abnormal, foot sniffing creepy shoe stealing geeks! LOL Now we all know that is far from the truth. But TV and movies still make fun at visual or olfactory stimulation from below the ankle. Perhaps in part, women see these depictions and erroneously conclude that feet aren't to be enjoyed in a sexual way. How sad that is. Fortunately though most women can be swayed. Yes, it is true. You can get close and even express your love for feet without ridicule. You just need 3 things. You require patience, confidence and understanding (And a woman with cute feet).

To some of you, this may seem like an old topic, and you have successfully managed to integrate your fetishism into your dating, marriage or lifestyle. For those of you who have - I congratulate you. For those of you who find themselves still seeking some help - here are a few of my thoughts to get you started. 

They say that patience is a virtue seldom found in women, and never found in men. In the case of a footman wanting to experience different forms of footplay... this is usually very true. What is a man to do? He knows that he longs to touch a beautifully formed ped, to caress a well defined arch, to suck sweet toes, to tongue the lines of a wrinkled sole or perhaps sniff that euphoric aroma. I am sure you all relish the thought of succulent peds - yours for the taking. This is the part that you newbie fellas need to know most. You must have patience. Not only with ladies, but yourself. Take your time. Don't rush it. Be a gentleman and communicate with your lady. If it is a new relationship - be sure to test the waters before blurting out that you have a fetish. A few compliments are nice, but don't go over board. She will be scared away, if she thinks that you are only after her feet. Try subtle activities that get you close to her feet and get a sense of how she feels about her feet. Many women think that their feet are ugly or smelly and need to overcome that. A possible suggestion would be to offer to take her shopping. Most women have shoe fetish and don't even realize it. Buy her a little outfit and suggest that she might like a matching pair of shoes. After she has modeled some sexy shoes for you - take a little walk over to the cosmetic section and select a matching nail polish. See how she reacts to this day out. When you get the chance, open up a discussion about the shoes she tried on or maybe pedicures. Tell her that you like how she keeps her feet. Try to keep things light at first and if you do get an opportunity to get close to her pretty peds... say while you're on the couch watching TV - don't grope them. Don't take this as a sign that you can gobble and drool on her tootsies. Rest your hands on her feet. Wait and see if she pulls away. After awhile... gently stroke the tops of her feet. Not her soles, as she might be ticklish and jump a mile. No sniffing. Take your time. Have patience with her too. If she reacts well, then leave it there. Wait until you are together away before you try to enjoy her feet further. If she pulls away... that is okay. Give her time and don't get offended. She may not be rejecting you. She might just be as new as you and needs a little coaxing. Coaxing doesn't mean begging. Just like you wouldn't go up to a woman and grab her boobs, you wouldn't and shouldn't grab her feet. Follow me? 

The next area of real importance is confidence. This is important in any type of relationship where you want to get closer to a woman. Men are basically simple in their thoughts, and wants. This isn't a criticism. Women however are more complex. You need to be able to carry yourself in a confident manner. Confidence is sexy and communication is key. A woman who is interested in you, will want to please you. If she is sexually attracted to you and allows you to get physical... let her gain self confidence with you. Don't push her away from regular sex and suggest that a foojob would be better. She will be hurt. As things progress with her, start to reveal your sexual interests and express to her that there are a many things that you like about her. After you have opened up about your fetish, you may still need to reassure her that you are a normal guy. If she tries to talk to you about feet, let her talk... hear her... make her feel heard. Ask her if she has any secret fantasies and what types of things turn her on. Maybe try some of these things with her. Make her feel confident about her sexuality. She will then be more willing to explore your fantasies. Don't dump everything on her lap in one night. Let her enjoy a little ped caress before you rush to the next step. This is important. It is just like having sex. Some girls with jump into bed the first night, and some take more time. If she is worth it, you'll wait. 

I'm not suggesting that you wait forever, but understanding is key to your success. I have a strong fetish, but it doesn't mean that I would want a man coming onto my feet and expecting that I indulge his fetish right away. Like any part of my body, I need a someone to understand me, and respect me. I know this sounds like a lot of trouble but it really isn't. How can you expect a woman to understand your foot fetish and your strong below the ankle inclinations - if you won't understand her? Give her what she needs and she will give you what you need. A foot-astic relationship is when a woman is comfortable enough with you - to let you show her ped pleasures and she relaxes enough to enjoy them! 

This topic is vast. 'Ways to a Woman's Sole' could be the title of a bestselling book. But it really comes down to patience, confidence and understanding. Of course like any form of sexual interaction, or relationship, not all women are the same. There isn't one slick move that will get any woman to surrender her peds to you. But my point to newbies and even you unfilled married men - is that a large percentage of women spend time getting pedicures, wearing foot fashion jewelry and selecting the perfect shoes. Women want you to look at their feet and legs. Women like to be thought of as beautiful. But they don't want you to cut them off at the ankle. And even if you follow these suggestions, it doesn't guarantee you success. Success for some of you, is achieving the Holy Grail... a footjob. Footsex is definitely the next most often asked question. I promise that a future column will cover possible ways to add footjobs into your sex life, and easy techniques to help your lady get comfortable with a good old foot jacking. 

Until next time... 

Sole Scrunches, Genie.